I've had my first dose of hurtful language toward Nate....from his brother!
Somehow, Cody picked up the word, "stupid". I think the boys at school have been throwing it around while they play outside. They likely don't know the strength of the word.
A few nights ago, we were at our local Down Syndrome organization's annual event at a small amusement park. While we were waiting for a ride, Cody very sweetly whispered in the ear of my friend, Megan, "Ben's stupid.". She looked at me concerned about what Cody had just said of her 4 year old son with DS. I couldn't believe he'd said that and talked with him about how hurtful that word can be and that I would like him to use nice words. Then, last night, as we were getting into the car, he said, "Nate's stupid.". While the comment about Ben was mostly embarrassing, the comment about Nate hurt. It hurt deeply. Not only because Cody had said it, but because I knew this was just the beginning. I know Cody will grow to understand, and likely be an advocate for, Nate, but what about all of the other children out there?
When I dropped Cody off at preschool this morning, I had a quick chat with his wonderful teacher, Meg. She agreed to do a circle talk about how words can be hurtful. I'm sure it won't be the last time we collaborate about something like this.
So, whoever came up with the saying, "Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me."? That's STUPID!